According to helpguide.org, Narcissistic Personality Disorder is defined as: ⁣⁣

Narcissistic personality disorder involves a pattern of self-centered, arrogant thinking and behavior, a lack of empathy and consideration for other people, and an excessive need for admiration. Others often describe people with NPD as cocky, manipulative, selfish, patronizing, and demanding.⁣⁣

During the 12 years, I was dating/married to my ex-husband, I never thought NPD could have been the cause of our problems. Believe me when I say there were many! The day I discovered he was having another affair (his 7th) I was finally strong enough to walk away forever.⁣⁣

⁣⁣𝐅𝐨𝐫 𝟗 𝐦𝐨𝐧𝐭𝐡𝐬 𝐡𝐞 𝐭𝐫𝐢𝐞𝐝 𝐭𝐨 𝐭𝐚𝐥𝐤 𝐡𝐢𝐬 𝐰𝐚𝐲 𝐛𝐚𝐜𝐤 𝐢𝐧𝐭𝐨 𝐦𝐲 𝐥𝐢𝐟𝐞 𝐞𝐯𝐞𝐧 𝐰𝐡𝐢𝐥𝐞 𝐝𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐥𝐢𝐯𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡 𝐚𝐧𝐨𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐫 𝐰𝐨𝐦𝐚𝐧. I received gifts, money, the same empty promises, love letters, gifts for my kids…. You name it; he tried it! He was the topic of my therapy sessions for months. Then my therapist explained the term narcissist… WOW, it suddenly all made sense. ⁣⁣

⁣⁣We’ve all heard of a “narcissist” before. The term gets thrown around casually and is often incorrectly used. 𝐁𝐮𝐭, 𝐰𝐡𝐞𝐧 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐬𝐡𝐨𝐞 𝐟𝐢𝐭𝐬… 😳⁣⁣

⁣⁣Now, almost 2 years post-divorce, he is still sliding into the DMs of my best friends as if nothing ever happened. These individuals were not mutual friends of ours. ⁣⁣

•These are the people who picked me up after the abuse and heartbreak. ⁣⁣

⁣⁣•These are the people who stood by my side through the darkest days. ⁣⁣

⁣⁣•These are the people who held me while I cried many times over the years. ⁣⁣

⁣⁣•These are the people who gave me strength when I had nothing left to fight with. ⁣⁣

⁣⁣•These are the people who bought groceries for my kids when he committed fraud and stole all of the money out of my checking account.⁣⁣

⁣⁣•These are the people who prayed for my children when he chose to abandon them. ⁣⁣

⁣⁣𝐓𝐡𝐞𝐬𝐞 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐦𝐲 𝐩𝐞𝐨𝐩𝐥𝐞… 𝐌𝐲 𝐛𝐞𝐬𝐭𝐢𝐞𝐬…. 𝐌𝐲 𝐭𝐫𝐢𝐛𝐞⁣⁣

⁣⁣🛑 Why am I sharing all of this, you may be asking? Because their behavior will never change. The responsibility is yours to take back your life! ⁣⁣

Signs You may be dealing with a narcissist.

  • Arrogance, acting superior 
  • Irresponsible with money
  • Lack of sympathy for others
  • Two-faced
  • Acts different in public than in private
  • Lies and distorts facts
  • Gaslights 
  • Has trouble admitting mistakes 
  • Provokes people then blames them for the fight
  • Blames others for their lack of success
  • Emotionally distant
  • Sense of entitlement 
  • They are charming at first

⁣⁣𝐀𝐫𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐬𝐭𝐫𝐮𝐠𝐠𝐥𝐢𝐧𝐠/𝐫𝐞𝐜𝐨𝐯𝐞𝐫𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐟𝐫𝐨𝐦 𝐚 𝐧𝐚𝐫𝐜𝐢𝐬𝐬𝐢𝐬𝐭𝐢𝐜 𝐫𝐞𝐥𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬𝐡𝐢𝐩? Message me at melissa@melissalynncoaching.com, 𝐈 𝐚𝐦 𝐡𝐞𝐫𝐞 𝐭𝐨 𝐬𝐮𝐩𝐩𝐨𝐫𝐭 𝐲𝐨𝐮.⁣⁣

𝐈 𝐬𝐞𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮. 𝐈 𝐰𝐚𝐬 𝐲𝐨𝐮! ✨🤍⁣⁣

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