According to helpguide.org, Narcissistic Personality Disorder is defined as:
Narcissistic personality disorder involves a pattern of self-centered, arrogant thinking and behavior, a lack of empathy and consideration for other people, and an excessive need for admiration. Others often describe people with NPD as cocky, manipulative, selfish, patronizing, and demanding.
During the 12 years, I was dating/married to my ex-husband, I never thought NPD could have been the cause of our problems. Believe me when I say there were many! The day I discovered he was having another affair (his 7th) I was finally strong enough to walk away forever.
𝐅𝐨𝐫 𝟗 𝐦𝐨𝐧𝐭𝐡𝐬 𝐡𝐞 𝐭𝐫𝐢𝐞𝐝 𝐭𝐨 𝐭𝐚𝐥𝐤 𝐡𝐢𝐬 𝐰𝐚𝐲 𝐛𝐚𝐜𝐤 𝐢𝐧𝐭𝐨 𝐦𝐲 𝐥𝐢𝐟𝐞 𝐞𝐯𝐞𝐧 𝐰𝐡𝐢𝐥𝐞 𝐝𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐥𝐢𝐯𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡 𝐚𝐧𝐨𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐫 𝐰𝐨𝐦𝐚𝐧. I received gifts, money, the same empty promises, love letters, gifts for my kids…. You name it; he tried it! He was the topic of my therapy sessions for months. Then my therapist explained the term narcissist… WOW, it suddenly all made sense.
We’ve all heard of a “narcissist” before. The term gets thrown around casually and is often incorrectly used. 𝐁𝐮𝐭, 𝐰𝐡𝐞𝐧 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐬𝐡𝐨𝐞 𝐟𝐢𝐭𝐬… 😳
Now, almost 2 years post-divorce, he is still sliding into the DMs of my best friends as if nothing ever happened. These individuals were not mutual friends of ours.
•These are the people who picked me up after the abuse and heartbreak.
•These are the people who stood by my side through the darkest days.
•These are the people who held me while I cried many times over the years.
•These are the people who gave me strength when I had nothing left to fight with.
•These are the people who bought groceries for my kids when he committed fraud and stole all of the money out of my checking account.
•These are the people who prayed for my children when he chose to abandon them.
𝐓𝐡𝐞𝐬𝐞 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐦𝐲 𝐩𝐞𝐨𝐩𝐥𝐞… 𝐌𝐲 𝐛𝐞𝐬𝐭𝐢𝐞𝐬…. 𝐌𝐲 𝐭𝐫𝐢𝐛𝐞
🛑 Why am I sharing all of this, you may be asking? Because their behavior will never change. The responsibility is yours to take back your life!
Signs You may be dealing with a narcissist.
- Arrogance, acting superior
- Irresponsible with money
- Lack of sympathy for others
- Acts different in public than in private
- Lies and distorts facts
- Has trouble admitting mistakes
- Provokes people then blames them for the fight
- Blames others for their lack of success
- Emotionally distant
- Sense of entitlement
- They are charming at first
𝐀𝐫𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐬𝐭𝐫𝐮𝐠𝐠𝐥𝐢𝐧𝐠/𝐫𝐞𝐜𝐨𝐯𝐞𝐫𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐟𝐫𝐨𝐦 𝐚 𝐧𝐚𝐫𝐜𝐢𝐬𝐬𝐢𝐬𝐭𝐢𝐜 𝐫𝐞𝐥𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬𝐡𝐢𝐩? Message me at firstname.lastname@example.org, 𝐈 𝐚𝐦 𝐡𝐞𝐫𝐞 𝐭𝐨 𝐬𝐮𝐩𝐩𝐨𝐫𝐭 𝐲𝐨𝐮.
𝐈 𝐬𝐞𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮. 𝐈 𝐰𝐚𝐬 𝐲𝐨𝐮! ✨🤍
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